3. Experiencing: “I’m Safe!”

When the responder receives a challenge, one of two messages dominate the mind namely:

“I AM SAFE!”

“I AM UNSAFE!”

This is the universal message that determines the psychological state of a responder and could be the result of anything that might be an experience of threat the responder with an immediate response of retraction to self-preservation and a resistance to transformation. The message can then regress to…

“I AM OK!”

“I AM NOT OK!”

This speaks to feelings of unworthiness and has to do with self-esteem and identity.

This then causes a further regression to the responder’s perceived ability to respond or not to respond.

“I CAN!”

“I CAN’T!”

“I can” empowers, grows the mind and creates a forward movement in the responder. The “I can’t” message disempowers the mind and holds the responder in a primitive self-preservation state.

All the actions of the challenger has to confront the responder with real life challenges in all domains of life in stimulating new ecosystems. The challenger’s fundamental responsibility is to always ensure that the responder EXPERIENCES enough safety to engage with the challenge in order to take it through to completion. It starts with the responder experiencing the TRUST from the challenger that the responder IS response-able to take the challenge through to its full completion (with the provision that the challenge is a JRC). Then facilitating the experiential transformation PROCESS of the responder throughout with the sole purpose of the responder - individually and independently – engage with the response-ability to take the challenge through to its full completion. This is done with facilitating the responder’s transformation process when the responder’s productive time-on-task is interrupted for whatever reason. This is done by executing the JUST RIGHT FACILITATING TRANSFORMATION ACTIONS by the challenger. These actions are ones with the least possible intervention in the transformation process of the responder with the only purpose of restoring the responder’s time-on-task. They start with non-verbal and, if necessary, only emotional encouragement and support actions to continue to with the challenge to full completion.